"Good intentions will always be pleaded for every assumption of authority ... the Constitution was made to guard against the dangers of good intentions. There are men in all ages who mean to govern well, but they mean to govern. They promise to be good masters, but they mean to be masters." - Noah Webster

"There is no worse tyranny than forcing a man to pay for what he does not want just because you think it would be good for him."
-- Robert A. Heinlein

Strange But True

All entries on this page are not meant to be comprehensive.  Entries are meant to take no more than 30 seconds to read and to make you think.

Ladies, he is not deaf.  You walk into the room, or you are in an adjacent room, and you start talking to him about something.  You can't see what he's doing but you just assume because he should be able to hear you, that he does. The clear audibility of your voice has not a scintilla of anything to do with it.  After you've gotten maybe three sentences out of your mouth, or only one question, you demand a response to which you receive a single syllable that is supposed to pass for an interrogatory.  Then you get angry because you think he's ignoring you. A  high quality hearing aid at full volume will not help this situation. His brain functions nothing like your own.

Contrary to what you've been told in magazines or at college or whatever source,  -- are you sitting down? --  men and women are NOT the same.  Their brains are hard wired completely differently.  This is hard for some of you ladies to comprehend.  You have this thing that Alison Armstrong describes as "diffuse awareness" which is what lets you keep track of 20 or 30 things in your head that you need to do, and why things in your environment seem to actually speak to you, begging for your attention.  Not so with men.  We men can tune out everything in our environment while we focus on one or two things depending on the perceived necessity. An example of an apparent exception to this rule would be piloting an aircraft, but even then we must acquire the skill of forcing ourselves to move our attention on a regular basis.

If I am working on something that requires me to think about it, then, no, I didn't notice that the timer went off, or the dog was barking to be let in, or whatever the case may be.

So, ladies, don't get mad at him for being the creature that God created him to be.  If you need to exchange words with him about something important, you need to first get in his space, make eye contact, make sure you have his attention, and then start talking.  You will get much better results.